Last updated on Dec. 6th, 2023.
For many women making the decision of whether or not to quit their job to follow their passion – or at least escape the pain – is not an easy one. There are many pros and cons to balance out: from the financial aspect to safety to freedom to fear, it’s not simple to decide on the right move.
If this is a path you’re considering taking in this post I am sharing 3 things I learned from quitting my job to follow my dreams.
1. Don’t think you’re that important
If you’re anything like me, you’re invested in what you do and your work becomes personal.
I remember having a few big projects on my plate at the time I made the decision to quit and it didn’t really feel like the right time for me to leave the company. It was hard to let go and to come to the conclusion that I had to leave for my own sake.
I felt guilty, I felt I was been a huge let down to them and to my babies.
Yes, after working intensively on these projects for a few months, losing sleep and skipping meals to see them through completion, they had become my babies.
Well, you know what happened to my babies: a couple of them got axed!
Ouch!
It happens.
Companies shift priorities and projects get shelved. It’s part of the game. Nothing personal.
It kind of put things in perspective though. No project is worth compromising your health, your well-being or your mental sanity over.
Take care of yourself. Your company will take care of itself.
Now, that’s not a reason to be callous and slam the door without consideration. Follow the appropriate guidelines in your industry and make yourself available to facilitate the transition.
However, don’t delay your decision under false pretexts. No matter how irreplaceable you believe you are, trust me, they’ll get over losing you.
No project is worth compromising your health, your well-being or your mental sanity over. Take care of yourself. Your company will take care of itself.
2. Trust that the ‘Universe’ will support you.
When I finally decided to leave, I really wasn’t sure how I was going to swing it.
I had a hankering to spend time abroad, to be more creative and to do something aligned with my personal values. However I had no concrete plan and my savings were not enough to take me that far.
All I knew is that I couldn’t stay where I was because this job was killing me. Also, it was clear to me that getting a similar job wasn’t an option either. The problem was deeper than that: I just wasn’t aligned with the whole lifestyle and that was making me miserable.
Anyway, after weeks of stressing it came to the point where I had to make a decision.
I reasoned if my soul was dying in this job, my soul probably had a better plan for me to follow. I decided to jump ship and trust!
Now I am not advocating for you to follow suit blindly. It was a very risky move.
But in my case it paid off!
I reasoned if my soul was dying in this job, my soul probably had a better plan for me to follow.
I opened up to my boss about the situation and they were extremely understanding. We came to a great arrangement which allowed me to leave with peace of mind and buy myself enough time to figure things out and put a plan in motion.
Conclusion, when you put yourself behind your dreams doors open miraculously!
3. Freedom tastes good but it’s hard work.
After the stress which comes from deciding whether or not to quit, and from negotiating and transitioning out, finally comes the day when you leave.
There are people who you’re sad to leave behind. Others, you just can’t hide how excited you are never to have to see their sorry a** again.
You may even feel like the guy in this video going to his last meeting after winning the lottery. It’s in French but it’s pretty self-explanatory…
Yes, freedom tastes pretty sweet!
And, then comes the question: what do you do next?
It’s exhilarating to spend every day living life on your terms following something you believe in, even if you don’t really know what it is yet.
Waking up with no stress, taking time for yourself, having time to be social again feels really wonderful.
However, it’s also very easy to drift, waste time, be unfocused and go into panic when you look at the finances going out but not coming in.
That’s when you must remember: this is not heaven yet.
It may be more like purgatory.
So don’t fall asleep, there’s work to do!
My suggestions:
1. Heal
After neglecting yourself for some it’s necessary to take time for self-care. You will need to be on top of your game for the challenges that lie ahead.
2. Figure out what you really want
Get re-acquainted with yourself and your dreams. Do some soul-searching to find a path not dictated by fear and safety but by passion and purpose.
3. Get to work on building your dreams
Dreams won’t build themselves, you need to build them. Decide on the first step that you can take and get to work.
Of course, freedom comes with a price tag. You will need more personal discipline, you will have less safety, and it could even be stressful. But whatever stress or challenges that may come with creating your dream life are a million time better than the cost of wasting your life on the wrong track.
4. Do you need help with creating success on your terms?
If you need support in making this big turnaround, here’s how I can help you.