You know I’m all about positive-thinking and I would generally say that optimism is a good trait. That is until it is not. Because, when it comes to New Year’s resolutions, optimism is the kiss of death.
Actually, being optimistic is one of the biggest New Year’s resolutions mistakes you can make.
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We’re at this time of the year where everybody is drunk on holiday glee and I tend to sound like the Grinch. What gets to me is the waste of greatness, dreams, potential, that I’m witnessing every single year.
There are so many amazing people, so much talent just wasted because of a simple oversight and that’s what I’m going to talk about today – a big nasty New Year’s resolution mistake.
Hey, everyone, this is Dominique Andersen. Welcome to StretchandBloom Soundbite where in five minutes or less, I will give you a quick tip to create a life you love.
Here’s what I see every year: people making lists of resolutions, setting goals like:
“I’m going to lose 20 pounds”,
“I’m going to stop smoking”,
“I’m going to change my job”.
A lot of “I will”, “I won’t” but not a lot of planning. People don’t realize willpower is the last thing to rely upon when you want to make changes.
Typical example: you say you’re going to lose 20 pounds, how are you going to achieve that?
Did diets work for you in the past?
What’s going to be different this time?
“Well, I’m super motivated, I’m going to push through, nothing is going to bring me down”.
Normally, what happens?
Two weeks later:
“Ooh, I think I’ll just have another piece of that cake”. No? Or
“Mmm… Today I don’t feel it, I’m not going to go work out”. And again you’re back to square one. Actually maybe added another 20 pounds to what you wanted to lose, shame and frustration and less confidence than when you started. It’s not working.
That was a simple example but it’s the same whether it’s a small goal or your big reinvention. You can not wing it because you know like most people you’re probably going to fail. That will reinforce your lack of confidence in yourself and make it even harder to get unstuck the next time you try.
So here’s what I recommend and what you should do, first get real with yourself. You need to call yourself on your sabotaging patterns, you need to know your weaknesses, you need to anticipate them so you won’t fall victim to them. You also need to keep your distance from people who will enable your sabotaging ways.
Second, you need to be clear on what you want and formulate your objective in a way that serves you. Because, sometimes, maybe it’s not about losing 20 pounds, sometimes it could actually be about feeling energetic, fit, and vibrant – and the result might be losing 20 pounds. But how you go about it, the motivation will be completely different.
You also need to follow a plan. I know I sound like a broken record but you need a plan – a strategy – something to keep you going when the going gets tough. You need to get back on track, you need to be ready for everything.
You also need a support system, you need tools, you need a team, you need accountability and encouragement, motivation – that’s also something you need to assess.
The point is, don’t wing it. Don’t set your self to be the butt of new year’s resolutions jokes. You need to set yourself to be the oddball – the one who made it. If you don’t know where to start, you can always check out BLOSSOM. I have the whole thing lined up for you and it’s super easy to follow, it’s super strategic and it’s going to get you there in no time.
In any case, what I want to convey to you is: Don’t waste another year. Make the next 12 months count. Take yourself seriously and take your dreams seriously.
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