So maybe you’ve read this blog for some time, you’ve picked up some of the goodies on the site and you’ve tried your luck at manifesting your heart’s desire. But so far, no luck: you’re not getting any results.
While manifesting is simple, it’s not easy. It takes practice and subtle adjustments to yield the great results you’re looking for.
Today we’ll take a look at what could be blocking your success and what you can do to improve your odds:
BEING POSITIVE.
The first mistake most people make is about positivity.
Yes, it’s true that to manifest what you need you need to maintain a positive attitude. Thinking about the best outcome, using positive and inspiring words, basically doing our best to be in a high spirit and vibration are absolute necessities..
But most people seem to confuse being positive and sugar-coating stuff or not calling a spade a spade.
That’s a big mistake.
You have to remember that life constantly provides you feedback on where you are mentally and emotionally.
There’s an art to reading the signs that it sends you. We could go into endless details, but there won’t be enough space in this post so for the sake of brevity, I’ll just give a crude and basic but very useful rule of thumb:
If it feels like doo-doo, if it smells like doo-doo, it’s probably doo-doo! Get out of there, don’t pretend it smells like roses!
Ok, I did warn you this one was going to be crude…
More seriously though, my point is you have to keep your high-spirits but you also need to make an honest assessment of your situation.
How can you correct a problem you’re not aware of or that you say doesn’t exist?
When something unpleasant shows up in your life, it’s simply a sign that you need to readjust yourself.
Being positive in this case is about learning the lesson and moving on, instead of ignoring the problem (false positivity) or beating yourself over the head because you find yourself in this situation (negativity).
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BEING A MANIFESTATION TOURIST
The second mistake is being a manifestation tourist. We all love traveling and discovering new places. It’s exciting, refreshing and fun, but when it comes to your goal being being a tourist can be the kiss of death.
You’re probably read that once we think a thought it’s actually created. So according to this logic, to manifest your big dream you believe you only need to think about it a few times and it will manifest.
Can you see the problem with that?
While it’s true that every thought we think comes back to us in one form of another through the universe, you have to remember that depending on the source scientists currently admit that a human being thinks an average of 50 000 to 70 000 thoughts a day!
Let’s imagine that you’re dreaming of finding the man of your dreams.
If you think a few times ‘I have found the perfect man and we have an amazing relationship’ and most of your thoughts are like ‘Oh, another wedding party. There you go, single table again’; ‘Is this guy ever going call me again? None of these guys ever call me back.’, I hope you can see how the scale is going to be tilting. With these kind of thoughts you’re not going to get your dream relationship anytime soon!
To succeed, you’re going to need to make your goal a priority and be consistent with daily practices spread around the day at the crucial times to maximize your results. That’s why I give women who take my relationship course a strict regimen of practices to make sure they are always on track and they don’t lose their focus. This is critical!
Same goes for planting a vision board on your wall and hoping your life will transform by magic. A vision board is a focusing tool not a magic wand! It’s one thing to build one, it’s another thing to use it daily to anchor your vision in your vibration.
Manifesting works amazingly and can transform your life in a cinch but you have to dedicate yourself to the process. The universe can only reflects what you broadcast, so make sure to that you are consistently broadcasting what you want to experience, and the universe will deliver it to you.
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LOOKING FOR SIGNS.
The third mistake is looking for signs. This point is somewhat paradoxical and may seem to contradict the first point of this post a bit. When you manifest what you need there are 2 phenomena happening at the same time.
One one hand you need to be aware of the emotional feedback you are receiving from the universe, it tells you if you are on track or not.
What happens when you look for external validation that your desire is manifesting is that you are sending the signal that your desire has not manifested. And guess what, the universe hears and sends back everything you need to experience this reality where your desire has not manifested.
You’re effectively creating ‘I am not there yet’!
The best way to know if you’re on track is to follow a strict methodology:
– First, by having a clear vision of where you are going.
– Second, by aligning your beliefs, thoughts, feelings with where you are going, and by clearing out any negative beliefs or energy you may hold.
– Third, by staying aligned with this vision consistently. Now this doesn’t mean that you have to guard every one of your thoughts, it simply means that you have to create a vibration that constantly aligns you with your goal and only monitor whether you are sending out this vibration or not.
The easiest way to do this is by monitor your feelings and your moods.
Now you should be good to get your manifesting back on track!
If this sounds like a lot of work, and you want to get smart instead of working hard to manifest your goal I can help you get back on track.
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Initially published on March, 31st 2014 and updated on April, 23rd 2018.
This actually does make a lot of sense. The perfect way to bring back important learnings from earlier lessons. Thanks for sharing it in such a straightforward and clear fashion. And this from somebody actually looking very critically at everything including these lessons.