As I often mention, one of the key to reinventing your love life successfully is processing your past. By this I mean healing from your traumatic childhood experiences, healing your relationship with your parents and of course getting over your ex(es).
The reason I insist so much on this (I dedicate a big chunk of my coaching to this) is because so much of our experience in life is connected to our thought patterns. And holding on to any negative thoughts or emotions about what happened in your past is a sure-way to attract similar experiences in the future.
THE BIG TRAUMA
One the of the hardest experience to overcome when it comes to your love life is probably divorce.
So much hope, ideals and dreams are projected into a marriage that when this marriage comes to an end, it’s earth-shattering. You have to deal with the pain of the break-up, the logistical, financial, legal implications and the social repercussions a divorce generates. There’s also the lawyers, the dividing of assets and the relocation, the management of the schedules if you have litle ones (or pets!) and the more (or less) supportive or nosy friends and family.
It’s a big mess!
And it’s extremely taxing on every level.
Now, as intense as it is I like to believe that a divorce is not the end of your life. And eventually after the dust settles down, it’s again time to rebuild your love life. That’s when the processing comes in handy.
It allows you to open up again, trust and share intimacy. It also allows to understand the mechanisms that lead to the end of the marriage so you can make better choices, act more intentionally and be and choose a better partner.
THE OTHER F WORD
One of the ideas that I find most toxic when it comes to divorce is the idea that your marriage was a failure. I find that this idea can really weight you down and prevent you from springing back and embracing life again.
Today I’m sharing with you a few insights on why your marriage ending in a divorce doesn’t make you a failure. You can read the whole article here.
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