By STRETCH+BLOOM | On December 22, 2015 In Mindsets
Everywhere you turn these days it seems that being a six-seven (-ten?!) figure business owner is the holy Grail. And while it may seem to be the road to follow, I’m going to share with you why I’m happy not to be a six-figure coach and why you may want to consider that road as well.
When I set out on the road to become a coach I actually didn’t know I wanted to be a coach. At the time I was in a corporate job that was no longer working for me and I had to leave or lose my health and sanity.
So I left.
I embarked on a journey of self-healing and self-discovery.
I had to regain my health. I had to decide what I wanted to do with myself. I had to completely reinvent my life.
Becoming a coach is not something I decided upon. I didn’t even know much about that career at that time.
All I knew was that I wanted to be doing something that was entirely positive. I wanted to get up and go to bed having only done things that were contributing to the world. I wanted to share what I had learned on my journey and help others avoid the mistakes I had made.
I also wanted to find balance and live on my own terms: find the partner that I wanted to share my life with, have space for creativity and create a life that really worked with my personality, with my belief system, with my worldview.
I took a very organic path and allowed things to unfold. I allowed myself to make many mistakes and to discover what I enjoyed and what I loathed. I allowed myself to drop the ball a few times and that was ok because the stakes were not so high.
THE RECIPE FOR BURNOUT
If I had chosen the path of 0 to 6 figures in six months, I would never have had the space do that while laying the foundations I needed to lay.
Not with everything else that was going on in my life at the time.
Not while healing.
Not while building the type of relationship I wanted.
Not while discovering new cultures and new countries.
It would simply have been too overwhelming.
Mind you I could have done it. I would have just had to put on the armor and go to war again. I do that very well. I come from a lineage of warriors. The fighter spirit is strong here.
However that was exactly where I was coming from and it didn’t make sense to me to put myself through the battle again just to satisfy my ego.
I am all to well aware of the ugly side of that. And I wasn’t going back.
One of my client came to me to reinvent her life. Within a few months her life was unrecognizable. She was thrilled. So much had manifested for her!
She had received so many opportunities and because she was so good at following through, her life had taken off at lightning speed.
At the end of her program, she still wanted to do more work.
However when she renewed her contract she specifically insisted that we slowed down. No big goal for her this time!
She was ex-haus-ted. She needed time to process and integrate all those wonderful changes.
Some people get it!
THE SLOW SCENIC ROAD
Am I saying that you shouldn’t aim to to grow as successful and abundant as you can?
Of course not!
My point is that in our race for bigger-bolder-brighter we sometimes lose sense of what actually is healthy for us and we over-extend ourselves to fit in the trends while losing track of our own needs.
You’re not less of a person if you slow down, if you set smaller goals for yourself and if you give yourself more time to reach your goals.
You know what you need, you know where you are, you know where you come from, you know what’s going on in your life.
You’re the only one in the position to define and evaluate what success should look like for you.
Don’t be bullied by anybody else’s yardstick for success. Especially when it is arbitrary and disconnected from what’s healthy for you.
There’s an epidemic of burned-out, stressed-out, overwhelmed Superwomen out-there. You don’t need to take part in the madness.
Personally I am no longer interested.
Where I am now?
I’m fit. I’m deliriously happy with the most wonderful partner. I’m ‘blissed’ to have the most amazing clients that make my heart burst with pride and joy. Random people thank me for the positive impact I have in their life.
I’ve never been a better place.
I may still drop a few more balls, hopefully make more mistakes while I keep growing at my pace. And it’s all good.
Hopefully this will inspire you to consider doing the same.
Life is good on the scenic road!
If you’re fed up with going through life the hard way and you’re wondering how to start your journey on the scenic road, I’m offering 30-Min Fabulous, Happy, Stress-free Complimentary Assessments these days. It’s a personal consultation to help identify what’s keeping you in warrior mode so you can start turning things around and enjoying life. Book yours now while they are available.