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      How to reinvent your life

      May 2017 update:

      I have just released a new in-depth training to take this process even further.

      In this video you will learn the exact steps of my reinvention process as well as my favorite hack to create massive results in a fraction of the time and the biggest trap high-achieving women need to avoid to successfully reinvent themselves. Click here to watch the entire training.



      This is a follow-up on a previous article on regaining the control of your life. If you’ve missed part 1, start here.

      Let’s reinvent your life!

      So far you’ve done the work and reset yourself to hear your own inner guidance (If you haven’t, read this first)!

      Now what?

      Do you shave your head and go hide from the world in a monastery?

      Not really!

      The question is not : ‘how can I escape my life and my responsibilities?’.

      The question is: ‘how can I live more fully and reinvent my life in a way that it really works for me?’.


      1. BREAK YOUR PATTERNS

      The first order of things before you can reinvent your life is to maintain the clarity that you have worked so hard to gain.

      The last thing you would want is to get back to living on auto-pilot again.


      Breaking your patterns and changing your routine is one of the easiest way to make sure that you don’t fall back in a rut.

      It exposes you to new influences each day and give you the opportunities to challenge your assumptions.

      You can take a new route to work day, spend your lunch break in a park instead of with your peers or do a short meditation instead of picking up the phone in between appointments.

      And just to keep things fresh shift them up again once in a while.



      2. JOY IS YOUR BEACON HOME

      In a way we are simple beings.

      What tends to make us unhappy and to bring us pain is what is unsupportive of our overall health and well-being.

      On the contrary what brings us joy tends to be what’s life-enhancing.


      It sounds obvious but how often do we keep ourselves in situations that don’t feel good and expect to thrive.

      You know dating that guy who can’t answer texts.

      Or keeping that super-fancy job that has you popping pills like a child addicted to sweets.

      In doing so we are violating one of the basic principles of self-preservation and setting ourselves for troubles down the line.


      This guy is probably not that interested in you anyway and sticking with this ‘relationship’ will only cause heartbreak and keep the loving relationship you deserve at bay.

      And you may eventually come to the conclusion that being a good soldier and clawing your way up the ladder only brings you more trips to the doctor…


      By actively seeking experiences and people that brings us joy, we reconnect with our deeper emotional needs and nourish our soul.


      By actively seeking experiences and people that brings us joy, we reconnect with our deeper emotional needs and nourish our soul.

      It’s a great way to start rediscovering yourself if you got lost along the way.

      You can revisit old passions: pull out the saxophone you played in 10th grade, sign up for a pottery class, go hiking on the week-end.


      Sure, a pottery class probably won’t fix your boyfriend or your work-related woes.

      However, you will gain valuable insights about yourself and you will feel better.



      One caveat though.

      Doing something fun is not a license to indulge in your addictions.

      I once had a client who I told to spend more time having fun. At our next call they looked hellish. When I asked them what happen I realized that they had taken the concept of fun the wrong way and they had spend their time partying.

      That was not exactly the idea…

      This is not about having a mid-life crisis, alright?!

      So if you are wondering if spending your time off watching brain-mushing drivel on TV while eating ice-cream and cupcakes and gossipping with one of your friends on the phone counts as fun…

      Good, we’re clear!


      3. DEFINE YOUR VALUES

      spending time in nature

      Through your interests, your favorite activities, your forgotten passions, there’s a common thread: you.

      What matters to you, what inspires, what fulfills you.

      This is a great place to draw commonalities and start identifying things which are not part of your programming: your own values, your own dreams, your own ideals.


      If you enjoy hiking, it may tell you that you value nature, adventure, freedom, exploration.

      Or that you value peace, tranquility, introspection.

      It is not so much the activity that speaks about you.

      It is how and why you engage in it.



      You may enjoy pottery because you like being creative.

      Or because you enjoy the sensory pleasure of working with the clay.


      Those are 2 very different motivations which could be fulfilled differently.

      To be creative you could also start playing music or painting.

      And you could garden or give massages to get engage your tactile side.


      Give yourself the space to ask yourself questions to identify those motivations.

      As you reinvent your life, this will let you know what really matters to you so you can be more discerning in your choices.




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      4. IDENTIFY YOUR ‘WHY’

      Talking about motivations.

      One of the main reasons that leads people to living on auto-pilot is not having a clear why.

      Like I said before you can enjoy hiking for the excitement and the sense of adventure or you can enjoy it for the introspection and the peace.

      Completely different!

      By the same token, if you start climbing ladder before defining why you’re climbing it, you’re setting yourself up for failure.


      You may be after financial stability to support your family and social acceptance.

      Or you could be seeking ever-greater challenges, leadership and achievements.

      Totally different reasoning.

      Climbing the ladder could be a fantastic way to become more abundant and gain social acceptance. However it may completely ruin your personal life, your freedom and feel like drudgery.


      It all depends on you, on your short and long-term needs, on the company culture, on the position itself, on the team…

      It’s never black or white.


      Unfortunately most people think: prestigious company, prestigious title, money = good.

      And they don’t go further than that.

      That leads to the epidemics of depressed and suicidal executives that we see these days.

      Clarifying your why prevents you from falling into this trap.


      If you’re clear that besides your need for financial abundance you thrive on freedom and creativity you may not be suited to be a banker no matter how prestigious the title and generous the pay.

      You know that you would be living a really stressful life and that you’d be stuck in a rigid hierarchic structure.

      Not the best place for a creative type!



      By knowing your why in advance, you avoid wasting years of your life experiencing your worst nightmare to find that out.

      You know that this position it is incompatible with your needs.

      Nifty trick.

      Saves you lots of pain and headaches!


      5. UPDATE YOUR VISION

      Your soul on the board that draws your success plan

      If you’ve followed this process so far, you’ve broken the trance of living on auto-pilot, you’ve unplugged from your programming, re-attuned yourself to your inner guidance, rediscovered your passions, your values and your motivations.

      Well done!

      This is your point of power, the place where you can really reconquer your life and take the driver’s seat unhindered by outside influences that would lead your effort to reinvent your life the wrong way.

      That’s where you can create your future.


      Where do you want to be in 6 months, a year, 5 years?

      What do you want your legacy to be?

      How do want to feel every day?

      Answer those questions and you’ll get a clear vision of what a life lived by your own accord would look like. It’s probably very different than what you imagine.



      This is where you go crazy and bring out the brushes to paint the most vivid and exhilarating picture that you can.

      Suspend your concerns about how it can come to life, just play with the ideal outcome you’d like to experience and let that guide you.


      Suspend your concerns about how it can come to life, just play with the ideal outcome you’d like to experience and let that guide you.


      As you start taking action to move you towards your vision, the pieces of the puzzle will appear and the how will become clearer to you.




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      FINAL WORDS

      Losing the control of your life isn’t a matter of chance.

      It’s just the last step of a long process of ignoring yourself, following trends and wanting to fit in at all cost.

      Thankfully if you’ve read so far, you’ve woken up and you decided to shake things up to get back in your sweet spot.


      Now be aware that this is a process.

      You didn’t get there in one day.

      And you won’t get things back on track in one day.

      This is something you must accept and for which you must be prepared when you decide to reinvent your life.

      The journey entails ups and downs, fighting against conventions, fighting against your own limitations so you can really shine and experience everything that you came to be.



      Hopefully this article gave you a structure to accomplish the work that needs to be done and will help guide you back home.

      I know from having walked this path myself and from working with my clients that this can feel quite overwhelming. That’s understandable: society doesn’t encourage us to explore these topics.


      Deciding to reinvent your life is a brave endeavor. By engaging on this path you’re venturing way outside of your comfort zone: that’s confusing and scary.

      Now, you don’t have to walk it alone or figure it all out by yourself.

      I have outlined a comprehensive process to provide you with the tools and the support you need as you reinvent your life.

      If you feel the need for support, I’ll be happy to help you.

      You can also go further by watching this in-depth training video that gives you the step-by-step outline of the reinvention technique I have used many times to successfully reinvent myself in the blink of an eye.



      PS:FEELING OVERWHELMED BY THIS PROCESS? YOU MAY ALSO FIND THIS HELPFUL:



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    • 2 Comments to "How To Reinvent Your Life"
      • Bobby July 7, 2016 at 19:59

        “Defining your values” is the point that hits home with me. It was something that I went through years ago. I made sure that I knew what I believed and why I believed it. Whenever life begins to sway off track. I go back to that and it brings me back. Great post!

        1. STRETCH+BLOOM July 8, 2016 at 07:59

          Thank you Bobby!
          Great to read your agreement with this tip. It’s so easy to get lost, especially these days with all the distractions we have. Having a clear roadmap of values is really like having a compass.